Trying Our Best!
We have to learn to be our own best
friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies.
Roderick Thorp, Rainbow
How often have we wondered whether or not our best was good enough? I know that question plagued me often. I would find myself looking at the goal I needed to accomplish, planning my strategy for attacking it, completing the task, and then evaluating my success in meeting my goals. The problem I found that was often my biggest stumbling block was having something comparable to measure my accomplishment against….
Time and time again, I would see my effort as being wanting in some way. Not special enough or detailed enough or attractive enough or thorough enough. And then I realized that the only person I needed to please was me. I do not need to compare what I do to any one else because no one else can do what I do in exactly the same way. Because they are not me. My strengths and talents are uniquely mine. And all the comparison in the world can’t change that simple
If it took me this long to discover that fact then it’s not surprising that so many of our young people look inwardly and find themselves wanting in some way. And while I can not quote statistics, I’m betting that the self-esteem of our young people, no matter where they live, is at an all time low! Yes, there is always that one special person for whom the world is their oyster but more often that not, I think most see something lacking inside themselves.
So how can we help our young people build their self-esteem in a world that esteems perfection? There are a few things I think we can look at to help us help others to feel better about themselves and the efforts they are undertaking.
- There are many years ahead of us so why not try to make the journey a fun one. When you enjoy the things you are doing it becomes easier to do them well!
- No one becomes the best they can be overnight. Be patient but persevere and keep that forward momentum going.
- Dare to try new things. Often it takes trial and error to find the way through that works best for you, but you may never discover it without daring to try doing something a different way.
- Do not let others work to undermine you. Often others will try to build themselves up by trying to tear you down…but only if you allow them to have that power.
- Refine the way you learn by listening and tuning in. Get to know and understand your surroundings. The better you do, the more likely you are to learn more about yourself.
- Take responsibility for your own actions. Do not look to blame others for your own failures or be jealous of another’s successes.
- Actually take the time to think about your strengths. If this is difficult, ask someone you trust to help. Write them down and then strive to live them every day.
- Understand that there are times you will fail. Failure is a learning process and should be seen as such!
- Turn all those negatives into positives. Learn to see things for what they are. If you don’t like what you see, try a different strategy!
Above everything else, remember that you are special and that you are deserving of a happy life. YOU ARE WORTH IT!
For God gave us a spirit not of fear
but of power and love and self-control.
2 Timothy 1:7
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