We have a choice every day – to act on yesterday’s good intentions or get an early start on tomorrow’s regrets.
Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.
There are regrets that always seem just a tad beyond our reach to make amends for during our everyday lives. The problem with this is that we often don’t give them much thought until it’s become too late for us to atone for them while we have the opportunity of doing so.
In working in Hospice care for so many years, I was often the one person people felt comfortable enough with the unburdening of their regrets to, now that the chance to atone had passed them by, rather than the loved ones they shared their everyday living with. And, yet despite the fact that it is those that are closest to us that seem to suffer the most from the behaviors we display or the actions we take each and every day, they are the ones we spend the least amount of time really talking to. It is such a shame, because these are the ones deserving of the truth of what is in our hearts when the need to share this comes.
While the regrets we feel are somewhat subjective, based on many factors relating to the way we lived, there were several that I heard repeated over and over again. And because I hope that knowing just what the things are that we regret the most might cause you to live is a different way, I want to share with you what I have learned. Here is a list of what it is that seems to be the most common list of regrets people had….as they were related to me over the years.
- I did not live for myself. I did not act on my dreams. I did what it was others expected of me all the time!
- I was always working. I never took the time to stop, and look around, and experience the beauty that is to be found in the world.
- I was never honest (or honest enough) with others in my life and because of this I would become angry at those who were not at fault nor deserved my reaction.
- I lost the ties to my childhood, which was the thing that built my character, by not remaining friends with those whose role in my life was so very important then.
- I should have been happier more. I should have had fun more. I should have LIVED more!
Life is for living, not merely passing through. Life is for learning and growing and evolving. It is the time for us to decide the best person we can be and then finding the way to accomplish that while we have the opportunity of doing so. Seize the opportunity while you can and do not wait until it is too late to really live!
MY FATHER’S HOUSE
Last night I dreamed that I was a child
Out where the pines grow wild and tall
I was trying to make it home through the forest
Before the darkness falls
I heard the wind rustling through the trees
And ghostly voices rose from the fields
I ran with my heart pounding down that broken path
With the devil snappin’ at my heels
I broke through the trees, and there in the night
My father’s house stood shining hard and bright
The branches and brambles tore my clothes and scratched my arms
But I ran till I fell, shaking in his arms
I awoke and I imagined the hard things that pulled us apart
Will never again, sir, tear us from each other’s hearts
I got dressed, and to that house I did ride
From out on the road, I could see its windows shining in light
I walked up the steps and stood on the porch
A woman I didn’t recognize came and spoke to me through a chained door
I told her my story, and who I’d come for
She said “I’m sorry, son, but no one by that name lives here anymore”
My father’s house shines hard and bright
It stands like a beacon calling me in the night
Calling and calling, so cold and alone
Shining `cross this dark highway where our sins lie unatoned
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As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us.
New American Standard Bible
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