Thought For The Day 10/03/12

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Kindness!

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http://izismile.com/2011/09/30/human_kindness_captured_in_pictures_11_pics-7.html

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4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. 13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

1 Corinthians 13:4-13 NIV

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I see such unkindness in the world today, and it hurts my heart more than I can describe! I see it every where I look! I see it in the homes I visit where anger and hostility abounds within the family dynamic. I see it in stores where impatient shoppers snap and belittle children or spouses even as they rush in search of some imagined treasure! I see it while I’m driving as blaring horns shock my sense of solitude as I enjoy my Sunday drive through all of God’s glory because someone has not made their turn quite fast enough! I see it in schools as I witness verbal belittling under the guise of “I was just kidding” or “I really didn’t mean that” even as faces drop and self-esteem erodes in front of my eyes. I see it on the pages of social media where an intolerance of those “celebrated” differences of opinions that was the reason the country I love so much was founded in the first place, runs rampant, ruining relationships and pitting friend against friend until those bonds themselves shatter into a million pieces! And I must ask, where it is that all of the patience and kindness we spend so many years trying to instill in the hearts of our little ones has vanished to?

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Patience

(noun)

1. the bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like. 2. a willingness to suppress annoyance when confronted with delay. 3. a quiet, steady perseverance; even-tempered care; diligence.

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Kindness
(noun)
1. the state or quality of being kind. 2. a kind act; favor. 3. kind behavior. 4. friendly feeling; liking.

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Such powerful little words that can make or break civilizations, and amazingly, also two things for which we as people have complete authority over! The problem is that because we have, as a society, failed to exercise either of these two, they have become flabby and totally lacking in definition! And yet, they are within each heart and are capable of being found and brought back to life, once more! But how, you ask? How can we make an apathetic and indifferent collection of such diverse individuals that make up society, somehow work again as a cohesive group, whose collaborative efforts will strengthen the bonds of family, community and society……….and congregation under God? We start at home, with number one! We can not fix everything and everyone else but we each can fix ourselves!

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Try taking a step back when you are faced with difficulties in your life. How often do we find unkindness peeking out during the moments when we are unhappy? I don’t know about you, but I can raise my hand here and say, “Yep, that’s me!” So take a breath and give life just a second and see if you can not get your head to a better place. I’m betting once you do, the unkind thing that was just waiting to burst from your lips might just fade away! You might think about it as having a really, really , really long fuse instead of a quick temper! But I promise you that making a choice to control your own emotions rather than allowing them to control your life will not just allow you to feel better about others, but you will feel better about yourself, as well!

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Have you considered that there are parts to really being kind? The thing is that we sometimes forget to look at the global picture, especially when we are riled up. Looking at something in its entirety takes focus and work and the one thing we are NOT really prepared to do when we are angry or frustrated. But consider the whole we must. First, we must be gentle and sensitive and tender with others. People are like eggs. The break easily and once broken, it is almost always impossible to fix it! Second, we must be willing to look at and deal with the needs of the whole (family first, friends second, community third). Part of being successful in the kindness department, is being willing to think of self second! Thirdly, sometimes things don’t always work out quite the way we want them to, but sometimes different doesn’t always mean bad! So try to take a moment and close your eyes. Then open them and try to feel the flow carry you forward. I’m betting the place you end up is just as satisfying, perhaps more so, than the place you were originally headed! Lastly, sometimes we must become the bigger person of the two (or more) involved in the situation. Just because you feel impotent, doesn’t mean that you ARE impotent. Try smiling and stepping forward first to make things right! You will find a relief wash over you and you will also become empowered with a strength you did not realize you had!

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If ever you need to see two stories where kindness and patience are the winners, just read two stories in the Bible….the story of Ruth and the one about Joseph. Both of these stories were in blogs I recently posted. (“Sticking Together Through Thick And Thin” from 09/14/12 talks about Ruth and her relationship with her mother-in-law. “Sharing The Faith” posted 09/15/12 includes the story of Joseph and his forgiveness of his brothers who sold him into slavery.) But the Bible is rife with others just as impactful and relevant to today’s message and I hope you will do a bit of Bible exploring yourselves and see what you discover that speaks to you about these things! In the meantime, take a good hard look within and see if there isn’t something there that you are unhappy with and that might just be worth addressing. I promise you will not just be a better spouse, friend and member of society, but you will be a better person, as well. And being happy with the person we are is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves!

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Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.

Leo Buscaglia

http://www.quotegarden.com/kindness.html

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Copyright © 2011-2012 “MandysPath” Ministry

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About Mandy Bruscella

Mandy's Story: As a Registered Professional Nurse with Certification in a number of specialties including home care, I was afforded the opportunity of working closely with various Social Service Agencies in NY and NJ. ~ A lifelong Christian, I was ordained as a Presbyterian deacon in 1993 and, after relocating to SC in 2000, elected to become ordained as a non-denominational minister. ~ I established "MandysPath" Ministry in 2011. "MandysPath" Ministry is a member of Pacific Life Church, El Sobrante, CA, network of ministries. ~ I direct an outreach ministry in an alternative setting, providing spiritual care to a congregation of more than 500 people from around the world via the Internet. ~ As part of this outreach, I write a daily faith based blog. In March, 2012 I was asked to become a board member of Heroes For Children which is a non-profit foundation, established to assists the Guardian ad Litem program of Horry County, SC. Guardians ad Litem are a group of court appointed advocates who represent the best interests of children in Family Court proceedings involving allegations of abuse or neglect. Working closely with these men and women who make a difference in the lives of children, I completed training and have been sworn in to serve as a Guardian ad Litem for the state of South Carolina . ~ I have been married since 1975 to a wonderful man, Daniel. I have a son Daniel and his wife Melissa who live in NYC. My daughter Sabrina and my grandson Landon live here in SC. ~ My father Harold continues to share his wisdom with me and is responsible for many of the ideas I write about!

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