Thought For The Day 01/05/12

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Saying Things That Hurt 

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anger

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Anybody  can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to  the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the  right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.

Aristotle

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The other night the cartoon picture above was me….just change the suit and tie to sweater and slacks, longer hair, expanding waistline, middle-aged wrinkles……well, you get the point! But the rest of the picture…..identical!  PLUS I also had steam coming out of my ears! I was mad and even more than being mad, I was frustrated, because I was not certain the things I was saying in my anger were reaching and impacting on the person I was trying to reach! But rather than continuing as I should have, as we all should during trying moments, I resorted to saying things that were not just hurtful and entirely unlike me, but also sent a person I care deeply for away feeling even more rejected and alone. Why is it that we are reduced to pushing buttons we know we should not when we reach the end of our rope, even if we are trying to do things the way Aristotle has described in his brilliant quote?

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When we are encountering someone who is angry, especially someone we care about, somehow those negative emotions act almost as a catalyst at sapping all reason and positive energy not just from the room, but from us, as well. As emotions escalate, so does any attempt at rational interaction go by the wayside. And the closer the relationship, the more bare and vulnerable we become because the other person knows our defense mechanisms just as they know that we will not simply walk away from them during this time. This is the way of man since time immemorial. It’s even addressed in the Bible, where we are chastised again and again for choosing to vent our negative feelings at others…especially those we care about. James 1:20 NIV tells us, “for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.”

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We need as much good energy in the world as we can manage! Unfortunately for many of us who bemoan our lot in life, we believe that the only way to make us feel better about our own perceived misery is to spread that misery around and make others feel just as bad as we do, when the fact of the matter is that we are simply lonely AND alone with the pain we feel. All we want is someone….anyone….to notice us and the way we feel. Psalm 25:16 NLT, describes this perfectly!  “Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted.”

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We live in a world where happiness is in short supply, and unless we can figure out a way to change our actions and reactions, and somehow create more positive energy, things will never change for the better for humankind. Happiness does have a price tag but it is also a price we can all afford, but only when we choose to. And while economists actually have place a monetary value on happiness at $50,000 (the amount of money needed to live a happy life), we all know that it is much more valuable than that! It is a mindset that runs the gamut from contentment to intense joyfulness!

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Happiness is the warm fuzzy sensation we feel when we hold a newborn baby and sniff the sweet fragrance that each human loses after only a few short months of life! It is the contented purring of a kitten who is falling asleep curled in the crook of our elbow. It is the smell of the pillow of the one we love, long after they have gotten out of bed and headed off to work. It is the picking of the fuzzy dandelion in summer and blowing the seeds into a floating cloud through the sky. And it is the singular joy that we feel when we realize how lucky we really are to live in God’s blessed world, where every thing we see, smell, taste, touch and experience is His gift to us.It is not just our job but our responsibility, as well, to live and love everything and everyone, and honor this gift He has bestowed! Psalms 37:4 KJV,  says it perfectly! “Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.” 

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13 Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that getteth understanding.

14 For the merchandise of it is better than the merchandise of silver, and the gain thereof than fine gold.

15 She is more precious than rubies: and all the things thou canst desire are not to be compared unto her.

16 Length of days is in her right hand; and in her left hand riches and honour.

17 Her ways are ways of pleasantness, and all her paths are peace.

18 She is a tree of life to them that lay hold upon her: and happy is every one that retaineth her.

Proverbs 3:13-18 KJV

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During the up-coming days of a brand New Year, please remember the millions of our brothers and sisters who continue to suffer from the effects of Superstorm Sandy. Give as much as you can, as often as you can to the following organizations. Your gift might just mean a family who has lost everything might just have something to smile about!

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Staten Island Gift Cards For Relief
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For information, visit
or

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The Robin Hood Relief Fund

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“121212” The Concert For Sandy Relief

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Call 1-855-465- HELP (4357)

or visit

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or

Twitter #121212concert

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About Mandy Bruscella

Mandy's Story: As a Registered Professional Nurse with Certification in a number of specialties including home care, I was afforded the opportunity of working closely with various Social Service Agencies in NY and NJ. ~ A lifelong Christian, I was ordained as a Presbyterian deacon in 1993 and, after relocating to SC in 2000, elected to become ordained as a non-denominational minister. ~ I established "MandysPath" Ministry in 2011. "MandysPath" Ministry is a member of Pacific Life Church, El Sobrante, CA, network of ministries. ~ I direct an outreach ministry in an alternative setting, providing spiritual care to a congregation of more than 500 people from around the world via the Internet. ~ As part of this outreach, I write a daily faith based blog. In March, 2012 I was asked to become a board member of Heroes For Children which is a non-profit foundation, established to assists the Guardian ad Litem program of Horry County, SC. Guardians ad Litem are a group of court appointed advocates who represent the best interests of children in Family Court proceedings involving allegations of abuse or neglect. Working closely with these men and women who make a difference in the lives of children, I completed training and have been sworn in to serve as a Guardian ad Litem for the state of South Carolina . ~ I have been married since 1975 to a wonderful man, Daniel. I have a son Daniel and his wife Melissa who live in NYC. My daughter Sabrina and my grandson Landon live here in SC. ~ My father Harold continues to share his wisdom with me and is responsible for many of the ideas I write about!

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