Thought For The Day 01/12/13


When We Hurt

One We Should Love 




I forgot that every little action of the common day makes or unmakes character, and that therefore what one has done in the secret chamber one has some day to cry aloud on the house-tops. 
Oscar Wilde


Whether it is the world that is changing or matters of the human heart, the responsibility for most of the things that shift their importance in our lives rests solely on the shoulders of each of us. It is, after all, only the human being, of all of God’s creations, that was endowed by Him with the capacity to comprehend the reasoning for not just his own actions but also for the circumstances that result in changes in everything and everyone else whose life touches his, whether it is that which is seen, heard, smelled, tasted or felt! And if the changes we are each directly responsible for affect only ourselves, we can continue on with our business of living with a clear conscience, knowing that we have chosen rightly in the thing we have altered. However it is rare that only we are touched by our choices. Generally, like a snowball rolling downhill gathers mass as well as speed, so do our changes gather mass as what we do races beyond our lives and touches the lives of everyone in our circle of family, friends and acquaintances!


In His handbook for our lives, God has much to say about our relationships, both good and bad. But if there is one absolute that is told again and again, it is that relationships must both begin and end with each of us! We alone must not only live with our actions but be accountable for them as well, because they seldom touch only he who is responsible for their undertaking. Philippians 2:3-4 reminds us, “Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.”
How many of us can say with a degree of certainty that most people are as happy to greet us as they are sad to bid us farewell? And while none of us are perfect, there is something exceedingly wrong when our approach is a cause for dread and our departure of such relief that the intake of breathing of our acquaintances upon our leaving is audible! But such reactions are always the result of our own actions! And while the cause is often our words, our actions are also responsible for how we are perceived by others. Proverbs 16:28 reminds us that the adage “Loose lips can sink ships” has been around far longer than ships have! “A perverse man sows strife, and a whisperer separates the best of friends.” Yes, both our words as well as our actions can build up just as rapidly as they can tear down…..lives, self esteem…..and even the will of another to live! This is the reason that we must always guard not just what we say but what we do, because once the damage is done, lives are forever altered and repairing the hurt is nearly impossible!
Many years ago the life I lived was impacted by circumstances beyond my control. Illness eroded all sense of well-being in our home and the stress and fear of the unknown caused relationships within our family to become broken. Words of hurt were exchanged and despite the fact that our family was able to repair most of the damage through much hard work and being reminded that true love, the kind blessed by the Almighty, can heal all, still those words spoken in anger were never forgotten! This was more than a decade ago and yet the memories of those words spoken in anger so many years past, will be carried forever in both my head as well as my heart.
When we hurt, our vision becomes clouded, especially when the wounds are fresh and raw. But we must always remember that we never carry our burdens alone. Most of us are lucky enough to have a support system available right here on earth to nurture and support and lift us up when we can not find the strength to do it ourselves. But even if we don’t, there remains one whose love is all-encompassing. He is never too busy to listen and He promises that he will remain always at our side if we seek Him our and turn our hearts over to His safekeeping! Psalm 46:1 says, “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.” God also says in Isaiah 41:10, “Do not fear, for I am with you. … I will strengthen you and help you”. And that is a lifeline in times of trouble, that we all can grab a hold of!


The first days of a brand New Year have passed, and while it may be hard to believe, there are still people living in the area devastated by Superstorm Sandy that remain without power! Please remember the millions of our brothers and sisters who continue to suffer from the effects of horrific event. Please consider sending a Gift Card to the following organization. A thousand cards have been distributed since November but millions more are needed. Give as much as you can, as often as you can! Your gift might just mean a family who has lost everything might just have something to smile about!


Staten Island Gift Cards For Relief
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About Mandy Bruscella

Mandy's Story: As a Registered Professional Nurse with Certification in a number of specialties including home care, I was afforded the opportunity of working closely with various Social Service Agencies in NY and NJ. ~ A lifelong Christian, I was ordained as a Presbyterian deacon in 1993 and, after relocating to SC in 2000, elected to become ordained as a non-denominational minister. ~ I established "MandysPath" Ministry in 2011. "MandysPath" Ministry is a member of Pacific Life Church, El Sobrante, CA, network of ministries. ~ I direct an outreach ministry in an alternative setting, providing spiritual care to a congregation of more than 500 people from around the world via the Internet. ~ As part of this outreach, I write a daily faith based blog. In March, 2012 I was asked to become a board member of Heroes For Children which is a non-profit foundation, established to assists the Guardian ad Litem program of Horry County, SC. Guardians ad Litem are a group of court appointed advocates who represent the best interests of children in Family Court proceedings involving allegations of abuse or neglect. Working closely with these men and women who make a difference in the lives of children, I completed training and have been sworn in to serve as a Guardian ad Litem for the state of South Carolina . ~ I have been married since 1975 to a wonderful man, Daniel. I have a son Daniel and his wife Melissa who live in NYC. My daughter Sabrina and my grandson Landon live here in SC. ~ My father Harold continues to share his wisdom with me and is responsible for many of the ideas I write about!

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