Thought For The Day 09/27/13


A Match Made Where?




The sum which two married people owe to one another defies calculation.  It is an infinite debt, which can only be discharged through eternity. 
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe


This is a reprint of a post I wrote nearly a year ago about marriage and I supposed I was drawn to it because I am performing a wedding in a few short weeks. And as much as I hope they really understand the journey they are embarking on, I have to wonder if they really do! They say they do. They are not teenagers, who think first with their hormones, secondly with their hearts and thirdly with their heads. And yet, as prepared as you think you are, the moment a serious challenge comes knocking at the door, is the bond strong enough to stand up to the challenge and overcome or will the first impulse be to cut and run? You see, no matter how you try to sugar coat the facts, marriage is hard work. Perhaps it is the hardest work any two people will ever engage in. And sometimes all we can do is turn it over to the Almighty, say a prayer and have faith that it will all work out! 

So here are a few of my own “Pearls” coupled with some practical thoughts worthy of consideration before you enter into what we hope will be a lifetime commitment with another!


Several months ago, I wrote a blog which discussed the difficulties of being a Pastor. In that post, I revealed that, as surprising as it may be to hear, the divorce rate among Pastors is about the same as the American average for divorce among any group. And there was another surprising fact that I learned. The divorce rate among Christian families, in general, also follows the same trend. So I must wonder why it is, when a group of people we know holds as sacrosanct, such a reverence for God’s laws, and especially regarding the joining of two hearts, how it is that they fail so abysmally in the one area that has been held as sacred since the earliest days of the Bible.


We know that times have changed and with those changes comes the emergence of women being entirely equal to men, unlike the days of yore, when the Bible proclaims things such as:

  • The husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church.
  • As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives be to their own husbands in everything.
  • Wives are to respect their husbands.


Now I am not an expert in the area of interpersonal relationships, except to be able to say that I have succeeded, despite the many obstacles hurled my way by the devil himself, in sustaining a relatively health marriage for the last 38 years! Were there days when I thought I might just have to shoot him? Absolutely! Do those days still occur? Oh, you bet! But do I continue to this day to see in my head and my heart, the same man who proved so captivating all those years ago when I was barely out of my teens? Without a shadow of a doubt! And while my husband and I are not perfect (not by any stretch of the imagination), we each subscribe to the belief that marriage is, indeed, a sacrament, and something to be nurtured and cherished as the years turn into decades! However, I do have a couple of “pearls” that I believe are necessary to embrace for any marriage or partnership, to succeed!


  • Marriage can not succeed if the character of the two is wanting. But character that is Christ directed will be more likely to be successful!
  • Understand that when the intense physical attraction of those early days (or years) wanes, unless there is an emotional and spiritual component that is present, the marriage is less likely to survive a lifetime of years.
  • Realizing that the promises made in front of God as well as man are a lifetime committment and then keeping those promises every day is a sure-fire way to keep a marriage thriving through the decades.
  • The love within marriage should not just exist but it should thrive, as well. And that takes exercise. Just as we stagnate if we become forlorn and take to our beds, so will marriage soon wither if each partner fails to feed it and exercise it by simple acts of kindness and gratitude!
  • There is an undeniable beauty in the physical relationship of two people who truly love each other. However, with age comes the changes that time brings to bodies and minds. But treating your relationship as new every day, can keep the physical piece vibrant and alive. So think about trying to woo and court your spouse every day, even though you may have spent decades together!


There is a group of verses in Colossians that actually sums things up perfectly! In fact, the beauty of the words from this book of the Bible, describes all manner of “For better or for worse” far more eloquently than I ever could! Colossians 3: 12-17: “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.   Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.”


Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins

1 Peter 4:8 NIV


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About Mandy Bruscella

Mandy's Story: As a Registered Professional Nurse with Certification in a number of specialties including home care, I was afforded the opportunity of working closely with various Social Service Agencies in NY and NJ. ~ A lifelong Christian, I was ordained as a Presbyterian deacon in 1993 and, after relocating to SC in 2000, elected to become ordained as a non-denominational minister. ~ I established "MandysPath" Ministry in 2011. "MandysPath" Ministry is a member of Pacific Life Church, El Sobrante, CA, network of ministries. ~ I direct an outreach ministry in an alternative setting, providing spiritual care to a congregation of more than 500 people from around the world via the Internet. ~ As part of this outreach, I write a daily faith based blog. In March, 2012 I was asked to become a board member of Heroes For Children which is a non-profit foundation, established to assists the Guardian ad Litem program of Horry County, SC. Guardians ad Litem are a group of court appointed advocates who represent the best interests of children in Family Court proceedings involving allegations of abuse or neglect. Working closely with these men and women who make a difference in the lives of children, I completed training and have been sworn in to serve as a Guardian ad Litem for the state of South Carolina . ~ I have been married since 1975 to a wonderful man, Daniel. I have a son Daniel and his wife Melissa who live in NYC. My daughter Sabrina and my grandson Landon live here in SC. ~ My father Harold continues to share his wisdom with me and is responsible for many of the ideas I write about!

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