Thought For The Day 05/14/14


Is There Hope For A Lasting Marriage?

Post 1158


wedding rings on a bible


A long-lasting relationship is not just about romancing each other or being passionate in the bed each day. It is all about complete trust and transparency built over the years. It is about the countless feelings and emotions shared and countless problems resolved together. It is about strong faith and conviction that someone loves you unconditionally and will care for you for the rest of your life. It is all about a deeply embedded soulful love.

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I was reading a daily devotional a while ago, and the leading article that was featured asked the question that is highlighted in the title of today’s post. And having read the title alone, I began to wonder just exactly what it is that makes us choose to marry and why do we stay married?


I don’t know about you, but I believe human beings are inherently social creatures who choose the companionship of others because close relationships are one of the key sources of happiness for us. Rightly or wrongly, we look to others to validate our worth and it just plain feels good to know that someone else thinks we are special and wants to be with us because of, and in spite of, those trillion little idiosyncrasies that are a part of the genetic material of each of us.


We long to be intimate with another, on many levels…physically, emotionally, mentally and philosophically and finding the one who fills that list of criteria gives us tremendous joy. However, it is easy to be passionate about someone in the beginning, but what is it that keeps a couple together once passions have cooled a bit? It takes a willingness to put the wants and desires of our partner above our own and unless we are willing to make that kind of sacrifice for our partner, love will fade and disappear.


Once many years ago, my husband was sitting in a friend’s home with a group of about 15 of his closest friends and classmates from Monsignor Farrell High School in Staten Island. They were jointly planning their High School reunion. Suddenly, the realization struck someone, that, in that room, was something of monumental significance. Of those 15 men, 1 man had never been married and of the rest, all but 1 of those who had ever been married were still married to their first (and only) spouse. This was a revelation that, when looked at from a statistical perspective, is off the chart! But even more significant was another realization. Every single person in the room grew up in an intact, Christian household, whose core values encompassed “God first, Family second and Country third”.


I once mentioned that we live in a disposable society… one where it is so easy to toss away the things that have become old or distasteful or disagreeable in our lives. Once upon a time, our partnering with another was crucial to the survival of our physical being. We needed one another to help hunt for food or farm our land. Today that necessity has all but disappeared and we have become selfish and egocentric. Unless we are willing to temper the “me” and “I want” with the “we” and “we need”, partnering for life with another will not be possible.


Perhaps it’s time we, as a society, need to relearn the art of giving….fully and cheerfully and from our hearts….all that we can to another. This is something our ancestors knew, but, somehow, it is also something we have lost in today’s society. Don’t you think it’s time we found it again?



June 7th, 1975


Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.

1 Corinthians 13:4-10 ESV


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About Mandy Bruscella

Mandy's Story: As a Registered Professional Nurse with Certification in a number of specialties including home care, I was afforded the opportunity of working closely with various Social Service Agencies in NY and NJ. ~ A lifelong Christian, I was ordained as a Presbyterian deacon in 1993 and, after relocating to SC in 2000, elected to become ordained as a non-denominational minister. ~ I established "MandysPath" Ministry in 2011. "MandysPath" Ministry is a member of Pacific Life Church, El Sobrante, CA, network of ministries. ~ I direct an outreach ministry in an alternative setting, providing spiritual care to a congregation of more than 500 people from around the world via the Internet. ~ As part of this outreach, I write a daily faith based blog. In March, 2012 I was asked to become a board member of Heroes For Children which is a non-profit foundation, established to assists the Guardian ad Litem program of Horry County, SC. Guardians ad Litem are a group of court appointed advocates who represent the best interests of children in Family Court proceedings involving allegations of abuse or neglect. Working closely with these men and women who make a difference in the lives of children, I completed training and have been sworn in to serve as a Guardian ad Litem for the state of South Carolina . ~ I have been married since 1975 to a wonderful man, Daniel. I have a son Daniel and his wife Melissa who live in NYC. My daughter Sabrina and my grandson Landon live here in SC. ~ My father Harold continues to share his wisdom with me and is responsible for many of the ideas I write about!

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