Thought For The Day 05/24/14

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Just What Is The Attraction?

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Oh, the comfort – the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person – having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away. 
 
Dinah Craik
“A Life for a Life” (1859)
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How often have you seen two people together and the very first thought that jumps int your head is, “What in the world do they see in each other?” And unless we are one of the two people involved, that is an essential truth that can be asked about nearly any couple we encounter. Yes, on occasion we see that couple who, by the very closeness of not just their relationship but their love, seem to somehow morph into twins. Think about any really happily married couple you know that has been together for many decades and you find not just similar features staring back at you as they stand side-by-side, but also like mannerisms and tastes, as well.  And yet, ask most people dating out there if they want to find someone who resembles or even complements their personality, and the large majority would answer, “Not on your everlasting life!”
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People who are very different are exciting. They nudge us into living a bit more vicariously, for the moment. Perhaps they show us, for one fleeting moment, the person we wish we could be, because when you get right down to it, there are few of us who are completely happy with the person we are. Who out there doesn’t have that secret desire to live a life totally opposite from what we show the world every day? And yet, what we really find is that the most successful relationships are not those that make us want to redefine who we are. They are relationships who want to help us to become a better “us”!
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People with similar tastes and passions as those we hold generally validate our beliefs and views. People with similar tastes and passions generally find themselves with fewer conflicts in their relationship. And yet, studies also prove that couples whose personalities were more alike actually formed happier long-term relationships than those whose attitudes regarding things like values and even issues of faith were aligned. And most certainly, those who try to form a relationship built upon the  fires of passion and intense physical attraction have the least amount of long-term success.
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Relationships are a gift. Man is by his very nature an incredible social animal who needs the kinds of emotional security and bonding that are to be found in solid relationships with others. We know this to be true from the Bible’s earliest writings about the Garden of Eden! Man can not be happy alone and although not all people choose to establish life partnerships one with the other,  all require the intimacy that those special one-on-one relationships with another human being affords us, even when that is fostered by a close friendship. The happier we each can be, the better people we become and that translates into each of us becoming a better spouse or partner, family member, friend, acquaintance, neighbor, and even Christian! And, of course, adding to the mix each sharing a common relationship with the Almighty forms that three-fold cord……a bond as unbreakable as iron!

 

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Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?    Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

Ecclesiastes 4:11-12 NIV

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Mandy 2014

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About Mandy Bruscella

Mandy's Story: As a Registered Professional Nurse with Certification in a number of specialties including home care, I was afforded the opportunity of working closely with various Social Service Agencies in NY and NJ. ~ A lifelong Christian, I was ordained as a Presbyterian deacon in 1993 and, after relocating to SC in 2000, elected to become ordained as a non-denominational minister. ~ I established "MandysPath" Ministry in 2011. "MandysPath" Ministry is a member of Pacific Life Church, El Sobrante, CA, network of ministries. ~ I direct an outreach ministry in an alternative setting, providing spiritual care to a congregation of more than 500 people from around the world via the Internet. ~ As part of this outreach, I write a daily faith based blog. In March, 2012 I was asked to become a board member of Heroes For Children which is a non-profit foundation, established to assists the Guardian ad Litem program of Horry County, SC. Guardians ad Litem are a group of court appointed advocates who represent the best interests of children in Family Court proceedings involving allegations of abuse or neglect. Working closely with these men and women who make a difference in the lives of children, I completed training and have been sworn in to serve as a Guardian ad Litem for the state of South Carolina . ~ I have been married since 1975 to a wonderful man, Daniel. I have a son Daniel and his wife Melissa who live in NYC. My daughter Sabrina and my grandson Landon live here in SC. ~ My father Harold continues to share his wisdom with me and is responsible for many of the ideas I write about!

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