Fueling The Fire!
Anger always comes from frustrated expectations.
Blowing off stem. How often have we done this? I know for me, it is more often that I would like… and the poor recipient of my ire is seldom the one who caused it in the first place! Yes, because I have become angry at one particular thing, and suddenly I am angry at the whole world!
I might find myself becoming nasty to the woman who does my hair. Somehow Landon’s afternoon daycare teacher was the victim of my sharp tongue. And before you know it, and perhaps, worst of all, I might find myself snapping at my husband. And as is always the result, he is apt to snap back at me, because he would (naturally) become just as frustrated as I was! And the amazing thing is that neither of us would be angry at each other, but we were both angry at the SAME THING!
Our emotions are so like a snowball rolling downhill! The more they roll, the faster they gain both size and speed. And the larger they become, the more difficult they are to control. This is the same whether the emotions are positive or negative ones, which is why the euphoria of love can drive us to do foolish things exactly like the despair and unhappiness of anger can sometimes drive us to do the exact, same, foolish thing! And whether or not we believe in the Lord, that we all find ourselves victims of this weakness is our lot! After all, we can not escape the human frailties that became our destiny the moment we first drew breath at birth. But are there some lessons that our faith can teach us about this? Absolutely, although it is not always easy for us to see them….which is one lesson I am learning the hard way today!
1 Face the real issues
We must accept that human beings become angry. The question then becomes are we angry because we have allowed our pride to dominate our behaviors? Well, if so, its time to put aside our angry spirit and try to exercise self-control that is sometimes so very hard. So take a moment, take a breath and re-focus our minds to a peaceful place, and then re-address the issues that are disturbing to us!
2 Unresolved anger is always bad.
Man’s anger is never good nor does it ever accomplish what we need, whether it is a human need or a faith need! Which is why we are told to listen and learn from these wise words found in James 1:19-20 NIV, 19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. Sometimes saying I am sorry accomplishes much even when the fault for the situation is not ours to bear, just as biting our lip when we are a hairs breadth away from stepping into the fray, can often smooth those ruffled feathers.
3 Live for Jesus Christ.
He has a plan for us all and as such, there is a purpose for every trial that comes our way. But if we remember to do the best we can to live the way we know God expects, that is the moment when we open ourselves to an understanding that there is a lesson worth remembering for every experience we are faced with….both good and bad!
4 May God destroy every last lie we speak!
Always remember that with anger sometimes comes the inevitable LIE! Yes, as much as we hate to admit it, sometimes we cover up our weaknesses with a falsehood which, while we mean it to boost our self esteem, only serves to erode our strength. So look to assume responsibility for your own mistakes and you will often discover the emotions of anger dissipating! Yes, when we are broken and turn to God, does He not welcome us and help us to overcome the sin that is wrought by our pride?
5 At day’s end, put your anger to bed and the next morning, replace that anger with love.
When we carry anger over day after day, we may find that anger transitioning into wrath. That is what happens once we allow those negative emotions to simmer. We feel even worse and the worse we feel, the angrier we become. But try replacing that anger by doing something good for another person. Suddenly, the weight of what has become all-consuming is lifted when we replace an angry spirit with a loving one!
Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil.
Psalm 37:8 KJV
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