Thought For The Day 11/28/14


How Much Control Do We Really Have?

Post 1357


Self Control


“We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.

Jim Rohn


Well today’s blog probably will come as a huge surprise to many… not the least of which will be my husband, Dan, because I am going to talk about the NFL  …… in a way! Now those of you who know me know that, for the most part I am a football widow. Sunday afternoons and evenings in my house see my “hub-stud” transformed into the ultimate couch potato. In other words, when the NFL is on TV …. ANY game …. well let me put it this way, Dan would think twice about getting out of his chair and leaving our house if it was on fire and burning down around his ears! And the closest I come to an occasional glance TV-ward is if the GIANTS, JETS or EAGLES are playing. Otherwise, just think of me as lacking that internal, grid-iron loving gene! However, tradition must stand and so the Thanksgiving NFL lineup is the normal viewing as we all sit, in near coma, recovering from our feast! Which leads me to recall one game and one player, in particular, that was NOT a member of the GIANTS, JETS or EAGLES. I will never forget, a couple of years ago, his Thanksgiving Day antics  against an opposing player whereby he continually pushed that player’s head into the ground and then proceeded to stomp on him after the whistle was blown. I was positively dumbfounded!


Some time after this happened, I saw an interview of this talented young man. He affirmed that in his everyday life, he is kind, gentle and philanthropic individual. In fact, his charitable works are a matter of public record! BUT, somehow, the grid-iron creates within him some kind of bi-polar transformation where he morphs into a mean, aggressive and nasty player. And I guess that some would see this as acceptable. However, it seems likely that the NFL would have suspended him from at least 2 games for those Thanksgiving antics, and which, if I do the math semi-right, could amount to a $250,000.00 fine if his annual salary is $2,000,000.00. Plus there is the probability that he will be required to complete “Anger Management” training.


In no other area of business would such behavior be tolerated. Imagine your local banker behaving this way. How long would your money remain in that particular institution? If such behavior were exhibited by a dog, such an animal would surely be put down. And yet, professional athletes, a role model for young people world-wide, are somehow often exempt from censure, for displaying behavior such as this in their professional arena. Which leads me to ask one presumably simple question of everyone ….. How Much Control Do We Really Have?


I guess this is that “fate or destiny” question we must always ask ourselves each and every day. And the bottom line is, we each have complete control over the actions we take and deeds that we do in our own lives. We control what we think,  how we act. We most certainly control the people that we choose to associate with and have in our lives. It is exactly this innate ability of human-kind that separates us from the lower life forms that share our world with us all.


God does not control this part of our lives for us either. What He does manage to do is endow each of us with the capacity for self-determination. It is what we each choose for our own lives that counts. God has given us all the rules by which He HOPES we will choose to live our lives, but the final decision for each of us is to be found within those every day decisions we each make! However, I can pretty much guarantee that He is surely pleased when those choices we make are good and of some benefit to others, just as He is surely displeased when our choices hurt those around us. But He does not live our lives for us! So perhaps it is time we all become a bit more vocal regarding the types of behavior we find acceptable for our own community, state, country, and world!


For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; 6 and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness;  7 and to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, love.

2 Peter 1:5-7 NIV


Mandy 2014

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About Mandy Bruscella

Mandy's Story: As a Registered Professional Nurse with Certification in a number of specialties including home care, I was afforded the opportunity of working closely with various Social Service Agencies in NY and NJ. ~ A lifelong Christian, I was ordained as a Presbyterian deacon in 1993 and, after relocating to SC in 2000, elected to become ordained as a non-denominational minister. ~ I established "MandysPath" Ministry in 2011. "MandysPath" Ministry is a member of Pacific Life Church, El Sobrante, CA, network of ministries. ~ I direct an outreach ministry in an alternative setting, providing spiritual care to a congregation of more than 500 people from around the world via the Internet. ~ As part of this outreach, I write a daily faith based blog. In March, 2012 I was asked to become a board member of Heroes For Children which is a non-profit foundation, established to assists the Guardian ad Litem program of Horry County, SC. Guardians ad Litem are a group of court appointed advocates who represent the best interests of children in Family Court proceedings involving allegations of abuse or neglect. Working closely with these men and women who make a difference in the lives of children, I completed training and have been sworn in to serve as a Guardian ad Litem for the state of South Carolina . ~ I have been married since 1975 to a wonderful man, Daniel. I have a son Daniel and his wife Melissa who live in NYC. My daughter Sabrina and my grandson Landon live here in SC. ~ My father Harold continues to share his wisdom with me and is responsible for many of the ideas I write about!

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