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Thought For The Day 12/28/12

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Caring For The Caretaker

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Even if it’s a little thing, do something for those who have need of a man’s help, something for which you get no pay but the privilege of doing it.  For, remember, you don’t live in a world all your own.  Your brothers are here too. 

Albert Schweitzer

http://www.quotegarden.com/helping.html

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Until the moment you have cared for someone with Alzheimer’s Disease, it is impossible to fully understand how daunting and all-encompassing a mission this type of caretaking really is. My sister-in-law knows. Her father suffered from this disease. So does Dan’s aunt who looked at the face of Alzheimer’s Disease every time she looked in her husband’s eyes. Dan and I know, having volunteered to become the court appointed guardian of our uncle who was also struck down by this demon disease. It is not just an exhausting mission but it is also often a thankless one, as well.

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So often I wished that someone…. anyone…. would step in and give us some breathing room! It didn’t happen in time to benefit us but it got the wheels turning in my mind and I have come up with a list (aided by some ideas from AARP Magazine) of some perfect caretaker gifts. Now this idea is perhaps too late for this holiday season but maybe it’s time to think about how to help during the rest of the year, and not just during those special occasions!

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1. An empathic ear.

Sometimes we wish there was someone….anyone…..who will just take a moment with a warm cuppa, and sit with us and listen. No chiming in, no opinions, no second guessing the decisions we’ve made! Just being there and letting someone know that they are not alone matters…….A LOT!

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2. Positive reinforcement.

How about telling those special people who carry the heavy load for caring for another that what they do matters and is important? Caretakers know that what they do is right but sometimes we think that others might not see it the same way! I know, that walking a mile in some pretty heavy moccasins, has given me a huge appreciation for everything someone who cares for another undertakes…. whether that someone is a baby, a dying person or someone with a chronic illness!

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3. Practical help.

I remember the days people told me that I looked tired. I was tired. So is every new mother. So is every person who is caring for someone who is ill or dying! So how about offering that caretaker 2 hours to relax, shop, go bowling, or get a manicure! Just a brief moment where fun and enjoyment occupies the mind rather than worry! Or how about arranging for someone to come in and stay for a time, enabling you to take that friend out to dinner or for coffee and dessert!

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4. Over the miles.

Not everyone that cares lives next door. My family was spread far and wide across these 50 great states. But a phone call connects hearts in an instant as does the mail. I can’t think of anyone who wouldn’t laugh at receiving a “Jokes for the John” book in the mail and while I am not a fan of flowers (allergies) there are many who would welcome the beauty of bringing the outdoors indoors! Or how about some chocolate dipped strawberries or pretzels, as a treat? These are little things, but they all say, “I care”!

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The things we do for those who give of themselves so selflessly need not be big. They need not be special. They need only provide a smile and remind them that they are being remembered as they travel through a time they would rather forget! Bringing a little joy into the life of someone is one of the greatest gifts we can bestow!

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“You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt has become tasteless, how will it be made salty again? It is good for nothing anymore, except to be thrown out and trampled under foot by men. “You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. “Nor do men light a lamp, and put it under the peck-measure, but on the lampstand; and it gives light to all who are in the house. “Let your light shine before men in such a way that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven.”

Matthew 5:13-16

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During the up-coming days of a brand New Year, please remember the millions of our brothers and sisters who continue to suffer from the effects of Superstorm Sandy. Give as much as you can, as often as you can to the following organizations. Your gift might just mean a family who has lost everything might just have something to smile about!

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Staten Island Gift Cards For Relief
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The Robin Hood Relief Fund

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“121212” The Concert For Sandy Relief

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