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Thought For The Day 02/18/15

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Living Apart Together

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wedding-rings

http://www.relationstips.com/how-to-choose-the-perfect-wedding-ring/

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‘It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.’

Friedrich Nietzsche

http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/marriage

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There is something so profoundly comforting knowing that the man I love is sitting just 6 feet away from me watching a universally known sports channel on TV while I am sitting here, “netbook” afire with my bursting thoughts. You see, just the simple fact that we are sharing a common space even without saying a word, is building a comforting memory that he is here, at my side, just as he has been every second since we were married nearly 38 years ago. That we can share a word or a tender caress at any given moment, somehow serves to strengthen bond of love that unites us so that the times that are not quite so idyllic will not sever it! Which makes me wonder about the dynamic of the relationship of those who have adopted the “LAT” way of life!

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“LAT”, which stands for “Living Apart Together”, is an increasingly popular lifestyle for some couples. According to The New York Times, a drifting away from the nuclear, traditional marriage model almost makes sense, given the changes that have occurred within the family dynamic over the last 50 years. Most families are two income households and often work schedules which interfere with what was once a traditional life at home. Separate work and social lives seems to foster an increasing independence within relationships, which is leading couples to choose either residing in separate homes, but near one another, or to live in the same home, but each maintaining an independent living space within the home.

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A union of two hearts sealed by God’s blessing, is a serious and sacred undertaking, which is why we are told in Matthew 19:6 NIV, “So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” It is through the little connections that happen within the relationship….the little everyday acts of closeness….which acts as the glue which holds a relationship together through the roller coaster ride that is life! Still, God hates a division of a couple even more. He says in Malachi 2:16 NIV, “I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel, “and I hate a man’s covering himself with violence as well as with his garment,” says the LORD Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.”

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I suppose that there may be times when, had they lived under the same roof, couples who practice “LAT” would have been divorced. Yes, perhaps we need to look beyond convention, and acknowledge that whatever works and makes a couple happy, is what is the best scenario for them, since each relationship is unique. Still, I have to wonder….. have we actually lost sight of the interpersonal dynamic of two hearts, vibrant and alive, rooted in the rich soil of faith, as we embark on life’s journey, holding hands….. when we choose when it is convenient for the one rather that convenient for both?

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“Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for whoever loves others has fulfilled the law.”

Romans 13:8 NIV

 

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Mandy 2014

Copyright © 2011-2015 “MandysPath” Ministry

Thought For The Day 02/11/15

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It’s A Neverending Story

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Our death is not an end if we can live on in our children and the younger generation.  For they are us, our bodies are only wilted leaves on the tree of life. 
 
Albert Einstein
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I talked a while ago about being a member of the club that none of us wishes we had to belong to. But just as surely as the sun rises in the morning and sets in the evening, so is this membership a mandatory part of being a human being.
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I learned the other day, of another of my friends losing a loved one… her mother, in fact. And while the grieving process is such a very personal one and very different from person to person, I have walked in her shoes. I remember from a personal perspective, that when my mother passed away, 25 years ago, I actually felt like I was 1/2 of an orphan. And that thought was extremely surprising to me, as I mused about it later on. When I lived at home my mother and I were always embroiled in some dispute or other, almost never agreeing on anything through my teen and young adult years. But, it was also my mother that was the first one that I turned to share my joys as well as my sorrows, in the years following my marriage and when distance made our connection together a phone call rather than a walk from one room to the next.
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And then I realized that we were, in reality, a part of “The Neverending Story”. In case you don’t know, this is a story, first published in 1979 and made into a movie in 1984, about a bullied boy, whose mother had recently passed away and whose father was so engrossed in his own mourning that he neglects to recognize the pain his son is going through.  And it was when Bastian was running away from the bullies that he enters a magical book store, discovers the book “The Neverending Story”, and absconds with it. Seeking refuge in a closed off part of his school, he begins reading and is transported into another place and time, where he becomes enmeshed within the lives as well as the storyline of the characters contained within the book. Many tragedies occur but it is when Bastian actually realizes that it is he and his life force that is actually directing the course of the story, that he realizes the degree of control and power that he has to help not just his new friends in Fantasia, but his father, and himself, as well. And we find that one little boy has been given the opportunity to bring hope to the world in which he lives.
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My point is that everything in our lives is intermingled with every aspect of the lives of those we are close to and even with those whose encounters with us are but casual occurrences. “The Neverending Story” is the story of life. And every single movement we make and thought we have directs the course of our own journey as part of our very own never-ending story. It may be considered no more that a hiccough in the road of life for the universe when it presents as a sinkhole in our own. But each adds to the wisdom we are blessed with and adds one more layer to our character as a human being. And when we turn to God to help us along this journey that is our never-ending story, we can be certain that we are blessed with the resources to meet head on, all those challenges with the knowledge that we are not facing them alone!
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A funeral service I once attended was officiated by a minister I do not know, but who shared a wonderful poem that moved me to my very core! And every time I read or share it’s beauty, I am reminded that even in death, we each forever remain part of “The Neverending Story” of life.
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Do Not Stand By My Grave And Weep 

by
Mary Elizabeth Frye
  

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.

http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/do-not-stand-by-my-grave-and-weep#ixzz3RHwmWbXl

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Then, when our dying bodies have been transformed into bodies that will never die, this Scripture will be fulfilled: “Death is swallowed up in victory. O death, where is your victory? O death, where is your sting?” For sin is the sting that results in death, and the law gives sin its power. But thank God! He gives us victory over sin and death through our Lord Jesus Christ.

1 Corinthians 15:54-57  NLT

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Mandy 2014

Copyright © 2011-2015 “MandysPath” Ministry

Thought For The Day 11/13/14

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Heaven’s Very Special Child

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“No pessimist ever discovered the secrets of the stars, or sailed to uncharted land, or opened a new doorway for the human spirit.”

Helen Keller

http://www.ableplay.org/library/quotes-about-special-needs-children.html

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Heaven’s very special children are found under the umbrella of the huge grouping of special needs diagnoses. Whether a child has Dyslexia, or Down Syndrome, raising a special needs child can be a daunting and heartbreaking and yes, even an exhilarating experience for families. And how do I know this? Well, I did not have a child with birth defects nor any of the thousands of genetic or chromosomal abnormalities that so many families struggle to manage. But I did have a child who was bright, articulate, and could always spell words without benefit of a dictionary. But my child also had difficulties concentrating, was inattentive often leading me to swear that deafness was lurking somewhere, and seemed to be a perpetual motion  android unit masquerading as a human child.

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Yes, we managed to make it through graduation only by the grace of God and some school administrators that knew that to retain this brilliant mind another year would not serve anyone’s best interest. And so my own very special child graduated, grew up, and became an adult that is just as brilliant and articulate as anyone I have ever met (except for my other child, come to think of it)! In fact, my heaven’s special child has done exceedingly well in life, choosing a career which actually makes use of some the genetics (and the better parts of those, I might add), which my husband and I gifted through the miracle that is life.

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Our offspring was a challenge, albeit a wonderful and blessed challenge, but in hindsight, my child was a challenge that, were I have to face again, I would gladly grab a hold of with both hands. You see, I know that both of my children were lent to me by God for perhaps the first 20 years or so of their lives, to nurture and to raise and to teach and to love……and to let go into the world, where they both would make the world a far better place than it was before their entry. And it is my fervent hope that the very special children that God lends to other equally blessed families to nurture and love, do the very same thing. You see, in every blessed gift of life, is the promise that one day, there might be a cure for cancer, or even peace throughout the land. But even when that gift of life is a very special child…..a child who will never accomplish great things, still the great thing they give us is discovering the wonders of God’s love and mercy in the discovery that we can love absolutely that which is less than perfect. And isn’t that what God’s does for us all….we less than perfect people who are His children….anyway?

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In James 1:16-18 NIV, the words and the promises are shared with us all. “Don’t be deceived, my dear brothers and sisters. Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of first fruits of all he created.” And the promise in these words is that with all that He gives, he gives us, His very special children, He give us the hope that as we live lives that both honor His faith in us, we will also fulfill His plan for the world. And I am a firm believer that as imperfect as each of us is at heart, whether we are a special child or not, that He never makes mistakes and that we are as perfect, in our own, very human way, as He wants and needs us to be!

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Edna Massimilla is a woman whose poetry and gospel music have been widely published. She was also a mother of one of His very special children, who has chosen to repay her thankfulness for this gift, in a unique way. “I feel like I have gifts of writing, and I am going to use it for our Lord,” she says. This is what lead her to gift to the world with one of her most beautiful, and well known poems. “Heaven’s Very Special Child”, honors her daughter, born with Down Syndrome, who now is in Heaven.

Edna Massimilla is the widow of Rev. John A. Massimilla, and together, they served as the chaplains at Delaware’s Institution for Retarded Children.

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Enjoy a video of this beautiful poem, “Heaven’s Very Special Child”, by Edna Massimilla, brought to you by HOPELights. 

 

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God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”

Genesis 1:28 NIV

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Photo taken June 7th, 2014 as Dan and I celebrated our 39th anniversary!

Happy Birthday to the man who captured my heart the day we met… exactly 42 years ago today. After all, you are the one that God put on this earth just for me!

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Mandy 2014

Copyright © 2011-2014 “MandysPath” Ministry

Thought For The Day 10/27/14

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Mending A Broken Heart

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When love is lost, do not bow your head in sadness; instead keep your head up high and gaze into heaven for that is where your broken heart has been sent to
heal.

Author Unknown

http://www.quotegarden.com/teen-heart.html

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How can you mend a broken heart? What balm is there to apply to the battered and torn remnants of our lost hopes and our dashed dreams? I don’t know about you all but I would almost rather suffer a broken leg or arm than a fracture of that fragile organ that is somehow the single most vital organ to the survival of the human animal. Think about it. Our brain is probably the one organ that is the most connected to our thoughts and deeds but what happens to the functioning of the brain when suddenly the blood supply which is circulated by heart is interrupted? The brain will die just as absolutely when the heart ceases to beat as can our capacity to love another when promises are forgotten and lifetime plans smashed into a million pieces when the one person we have loved above all other humans suddenly rejects us or causes some other harm to our heart! And while the effects might not cause a cessation of bodily functions, it can cause anger, bitterness and hatred which all can destroy the soul! Now I am in no way a professional in grief counseling or anger management, but I can speak as one who has been there and gone on to live another day. It is in this way that I want to share some insights on things that might just help to heal that broken heart from a faith-based perspective.

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  • We are really promised in the Bible that He will never forsake us, especially in our times of need. It says in Psalms 34:18, NIV, The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. And so the first step should be to unburden your aching heart and speak of your hurt to Him! The simple sharing of that pain can be immensely therapeutic, even if you are not exactly given an answer that will ease the ache!He promises in Jeremiah 29:11 NIV, For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
  • It IS OK to cry. In fact, it is almost necessary as part of the process of healing. God created us with the capacity to cry because He knows that shedding tears often provides us with an immediate relief of the heaviness that our cares can weigh us down with. And since greater people that us have wept bitter tears, including Abraham (Genesis 23:2) and even Jesus (John 11:35), we are in good company, indeed! He tells us as much in Ecclesiastes 3:4 NIV that there is a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.
  • Talk. Yes, talk to God, but also try to find a corporeal someone with whom you are comfortable sharing you greatest fears and hurts. Surrounding yourself with supportive people allows you the chance to share your burdens. Job 10:1 NIV, “I loathe my very life; therefore I will give free rein to my complaint and speak out in the bitterness of my soul.
  • Become proactive in your recovery by concentrating on things that you enjoy and are good at. Whether you adopt a hobby or you take up walking or jogging, turning that pain into positive action can go far in healing the physical components of hurt! Philippians 4:8 NIV says it well! Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
  • Be willing to take that leap of faith I have talked so much about of late and dare to dream and even more importantly, dare to love again! Man was meant to stand and walk through this world with a help meet at his side. In fact, it became God’s plan for man when he saw his very first human, looked into his heart and found that Adam’s heart concealed the anguish of being alone! In Genesis 2:18 NIV we learn of God’s decision that none should walk the earth alone! The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
  • And lastly, be willing to forgive. Forgive the one that hurt you and caused such upheaval to your life. Then, and perhaps even more importantly, forgive yourself for those negative labels you have affixed to yourself. It is natural to place blame for what happened on your own shoulders. But stop! You are not unworthy or lacking in any way! Give yourself permission to let go of the past and start a new beginning in your life. Give yourself permission to live again! Lamentations 3:22-23 NIV promises us, Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.

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How Can You Mend A Broken Heart?

Robin Gibb & Barry Gibb

I can think of younger days when living for my life
Was everything a man could want to do.
I could never see tomorrow, but I was never told about the sorrow.

And how can you mend a broken heart?
How can you stop the rain from falling down?
How can you stop the sun from shining?
What makes the world go round?
How can you mend a this broken man?
How can a loser ever win?
Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again.

I can still feel the breeze that rustles through the trees
And misty memories of days gone by
We could never see tomorrow, no one said a word about the sorrow.

And how can you mend a broken heart?
How can you stop the rain from falling down?
How can you stop the sun from shining?
What makes the world go round?
How can you mend this broken man?
How can a loser ever win?
Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again.

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Today my baby boy…..all 6’6″ of him…..turns 35. He is all I ever dreamed of when I carried him, and I am so very proud of him! 

Danny, I love you very much!

Happy Birthday!

Dan and Melissa 2013

Danny and Melissa Bruscella

2013

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Mandy 2014

Copyright © 2011-2014 “MandysPath” Ministry

Thought For The Day 09/15/14

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Whither Thou Goest

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Ruth protecting Naomi

painting by Sandy Freckleton Gagon

http://www.bing.com/images/search?q=Ruth+and+Naomi+Bible+Story&Form=IQFRDR#a

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Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family.  Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one. 

Jane Howard

http://quotegarden.com/family.html

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Have you ever wanted to be a part of something that was greater than yourself? Well for many of us that comes with becoming a part of a family. And while statistics indicate that in today’s world, all too many families find themselves unable to remain united, there are still the exceptions to the rule that make you just want to smile because you know you are bearing witness to something truly special and rare.

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Remaining married in today’s society is not as easy as it was in years gone by. In the mid 20th century, the roles of men and women within society were more clearly defined. Men’s work was one thing and women’s work quite another. And while both interacted well enough together to form a cohesive family dynamic, the expectations for individual behaviors remained fixed. Even personalities were defined almost from birth as evidenced by the toys that most parents bought for their children. Boys played with trucks and grew to be strong but silent partners. Women played with dolls and found their roles as nurturer and “rearer” of offspring fixed! However, times have changed and today, the distinction between the male and female roles in society have become much more blurred.

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We are just as apt to find women in the corporate boardroom as we are men employed as nurses and teachers! Both men and women also perform equally to the tasks within the family unit. My husband empties the dishwasher every single morning while I make coffee. He clears the table while I load the dishes into the dishwasher. It is much more a partnership that we witness in successful marriages of the 21st century. However, there have been equally strong examples of the blurring of roles throughout history and I am sure that in many ways, this is due to the strength of character that has been instilled within the very being of people who are willing to surrender some of their individuality to guarantee the success of the dynamic of the group. For some reason, the first names that come to my mind when I think about people who are willing to sacrifice one for the other are the names Ruth and Naomi.

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Naomi lived with her husband Elimelech and her 2 sons, Mahlon and Kilion. They were Ephrathites from Bethlehem who moved to Moab as finding food became more and more difficult at home. And as happened frequently in times past, Naomi’s husband passed away leaving her to raise her boys. Both grew and as the years passed, they fell in love and both married Moabite women. And once again, death knocked on the family’s door, claiming both of Naomi’s sons. The only ones remaining were Naomi and her daughters-in-law, Orpah and Ruth. Naomi, not wanting to be selfish, released both women from their bonds of committment to her, forged when they married her sons, and encouraged each to return to the homes of their father’s. And while Orpah bade Naomi farewell, Ruth refused to leave. We all know the words by which the dynamic of these women is defined…”Whither thou goest…” Ruth 1:16-17 NIVBut Ruth replied, “Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord deal with me, be it ever so severely, if even death separates you and me.”

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Now together, Ruth and Naomi return to Bethlehem, united by the heart of family joined not by blood but by love, both willing to do what they must to preserve forever the bonds of the family dynamic. As it was harvest time in Bethlehem, and determined to do what she could to provide food in a land that was unknown to her, Ruth followed those servants who were gathering Barley in the fields, picking up the scraps that were left over. Her actions were noted by Boaz, the owner of the field, who was a relative of Naomi’s late husband. Boaz also had a personal relationship with God. Boaz told Ruth to glean Barley only in his fields and he invited her to quench her thirst as she needed to with his water. He also guaranteed her safety while she was there. When Ruth asked him why, he told her that he knew of her love of and sacrifice for Naomi, and told her that it was the will of the Lord that her kindness and sacrifice be rewarded! And of course, Boaz soon fell deeply in love with this remarkable woman with the kind and selfless heart, and they married.

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True love is indeed a rare thing, whose value exceeds any other treasure we might have. Expressed as an action and yet experienced as a feeling by the heart, true love, in reality continues to be something that defies a single label. It is a magical tapestry woven of so many individual threads, each one a different vibrant color and each equally special in the eyes of the Almighty. Perhaps we begin our tapestry by weaving a red thread for compassion. How about adding a gold one for empathy and perhaps a blue one for tolerance. A green one seems perfect for sacrifice and I can see a yellow one for determination. A violet thread might just become support and finally, a silver one shimmers beautifully as we weave endurance. Each thread a different hue. Each thread plain when seen lying individually on the table next to the loom. And yet when joined together by the Master weaver himself, the result is a tapestry of blinding beauty and immeasurable value.

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Yes, love and family is hard work and sadly, it is becoming increasingly rare in today’s disposable society, but we can make it grow again in the world. It is as we share all the love that we hold within our own hearts with others that we inspire others to want to do the same thing. And like a snow ball rolling down hill gathers not just speed but size, so can love if we make it our personal responsibility to be willing to sacrifice just the tiniest bit of “me” and create something special by adding it to the tiniest bit of “you”. Lets make a world in which we think of “us”, exactly as Ruth did all those years ago! How big do you think you can make your snowball?

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Perry Como sings “Whither Thou Goest”

“Whither Thou Goest” was written by Guy Singer in 1954, 60 years ago (as I well know since I was born that year). That same year Les Paul & Mary Ford released a very successful version of it. In years since, Leonard Cohen ended his concerts by singing the song, with all of his band members joining in on the vocals. This Perry Como rendition of the tune is from 1959, so it was still a relatively recent song at the time.

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If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; …

1 Corinthians 13:1-13 ESV

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Mandy 2014

Copyright © 2011-2014 “MandysPath

Thought For The Day 08/15/14

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Faith, Family, Friends

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Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family: Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.

Jane Howard

http://www.great-inspirational-quotes.com/family-quotes.html

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Top: Harold, Mandy, Dan
Bottom: Henry, Landon, Sabrina
Thanksgiving 2010
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Dan and Melissa 2013

Melissa & Danny
August 2013

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FAMILY! Who has ever looked this word up? Well, family (from Latin: familia) is a group of people affiliated by consanguinity, affinity, or co-residence. In most societies it is the principal institution for the socialization of children. Anthropologists most generally classify family organization as matrilocal (a mother and her children); conjugal (a husband, his wife, and children; also called nuclear family); and consanguineal (also called an extended family) in which parents and children co-reside with other members of one parent’s family.

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Look at this definition and I wonder that any one of us would ever want to be a part of any union of a consanguineal nature. Sounds more like something that Bram Stoker would have written about, doesn’t it? And yet, it is these blood or consanguineal ties, that physically link every single living being, whether human or animal, to other like members of their species. And today, we take the definition of family one step further as we recognize that families have evolved beyond the traditional nuclear one to any group united and sharing domestic responsibilities within the home! But no matter how you define family, it was the concept of family that was recognized as being so important, that even God knew that for His son to walk the earth and to do what it was that He was destined to do for humanity, first He needed to be conceived, carried, delivered, nurtured and educated within the family dynamic!

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The concept of family has always held tremendous significance throughout our history of faith. From the Garden of Eden where God directs Adam and Eve to “….Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.” Genesis 1:28, to the time of Moses when God’s laws were given to man, and two of His commands (the seventh which protects the sanctity of marriage by prohibiting adultery, and the fifth which directs all humans to honor their parents) instructed about the importance of maintaining a cohesive and unified family dynamic.

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Yes, our human family is the most important gift we, and society, for that matter, are given. But even more important than the physical family we are born into, is the spiritual family we are “born again” into! And yet there is one thing that ties both of these families together. LOVE! Love is the glue that unites the human family together as one, and it is love that defines our spiritual family, as well! John 13:34-35 NIV reminds us of this new command from God! “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

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For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named

Ephesians 3:14-15 NIV

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Mandy 2014

Copyright © 2011-2014 “MandysPath”

Thought For The Day 08/02/14

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From This Moment, Our Hearts United

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Ariana and Laramie

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“I could not tell you if I loved you the first moment I saw you, or if it was the second or third or fourth. But I remember the first moment I looked at you walking toward me and realized that somehow the rest of the world seemed to vanish when I was with you.” 

Cassandra Clare, Clockwork Prince

http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/true-love

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Yesterday my niece married her best friend. Yes, Ariana Larsen married Laramie Sirokman. It is their picture you see just above! They are young but there is no mistaking their love and devotion to one another. But will it last a lifetime?  After all, we all know the statistics these days. (And their statistics are compounded all the more since Laramie is in the military and is currently stationed in another country!) However, my marriage has endured and I am often asked to explain the secret to the longevity of my own relationship with Dan. But how is it that we endured, even when the odds were against us way back then, too?

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My first inclination is to say that it has to be the four wonderful role models who were responsible for setting the example whereby we have patterned our own behaviors. But even the successful marriages of parents certainly does not guarantee the success of our own. In fact there is NO magic formula that will help to produce a long and happy relationship. No, we need, instead, to think outside of the box and ask a very different question. We are better served asking, what are the things that can divide us and break up the home?

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No one ever intends that their relationship go up in flames, but flame away they do….and all too often, these days. And whether or not they are a truly a Christian union is no more a guarantee of happiness and longevity, that any other ideal we might envision. You see, like it or not, a relationship is a careful blending of 2 very divergent and complex personalities, each one shaped by the unique life experiences that come from the unique family dynamic that bore and reared them!

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They say that what makes a relationship a Christian one is that we work together to restore the one thing that was lost by the two whose sin changed everything for mankind for thousands of years! Through our working to make ourselves the best we can be, we are striving to extend the intimacy of our co-joined hearts with God’s heart. And that is the single greatest component that keeps propelling us through the minefield of the things that seek to insinuate themselves between each of us and the one we have chosen as our life partner. Lack of trust, not carving out time in our busy schedules to share quality moments together, and being dishonest come to mind first to me. And for my money, these are all pieces of the infection that kill a relationship because they are more toxic to love than nearly anything else I can think of!

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Does being madly and passionately in love count? Perhaps. But only until the million other little things we cling to as days turn into months… then years… then decades together, kick in! So what is the secret? Perhaps it’s being madly, passionately in like, not love! And yet, from the moment we made promises to each other in front of our family, friends, and God, there would never be another for either of us…. at least while the other still drew breath. And for good or bad, it is that promise which is the tie that binds our hearts, today, just as it was that united them on June 7th, 1975! And for good or bad, it is that same promise which is the tie that will bind the hearts of Ariana and Laramie, for all the days of their lives, too, we pray!

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“From This Moment”

Music, lyrics and vocals by Michael Fawcett

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Here we bow, true love confessing…
In the presence of those we hold dear…
Asking now for heaven’s blessing…
For wisdom to see us through the years…
In this holy place, by the Father’s grace and power…
You and I, in an instant become one…
A miracle by a kiss secured this hour…
A bond that’ll never be undone… 

Chorus:

From this moment we are a family, I pledge myself to thee, the rest of my life…
And I know heaven’s smiling on you and me… Binding us together, man and wife!

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Hand in hand our heart’s united…
We face tomorrow, our dreams now in view…
Golden bands and vows recited…
Reminders of all I promise you…
I will cherish you, I will honor you forever…
I’ll be here to share your joys and ease your pain…
And where you go, be it calm or stormy weather…
By your side I am home, here I’ll remain… 

Chorus:

From this moment we are a family, I pledge myself to thee, the rest of my life…
And I know Heaven’s smiling on you and me… Binding us together, man and wife! 

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From this moment…
From this moment…
From this moment…

(to view the video, just click on the link below)

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Copyright © 1997 Michael Fawcett

http://www.myspace.com/michaelfawcett

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I will betroth you to me forever; I will betroth you in righteousness and justice, in love and compassion.

Hosea 2: 9 NLT

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And he took a wife, whose name was Susanna, the daughter of Chelcias, a very fair woman, and one that feared the Lord. Her parents also were righteous, and taught their daughter according to the law of Moses.

Susanna 1: 2-3 KJVA

 

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Mandy 2014

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